As I sit in my cozies with a glass of red to my right, I think of all of the people setting their resolutions for the upcoming year.
These past few days are always my absolute favorite time of year. Christmas has come, gone, and the food (and wine) from the holidays is slowly making its way out of our systems. The Christmas trees are seeing their last days still up and the days are filled with friends, family, and a good read or (more honestly) Netflix binge.
In wrapping up the last 365 days, it feels habitual to reflect on the best and worst moments of the year. I know I audit the year and compare who I was this time last year versus today. I think about what I struggled with or was excited over, who I was dating, what I was working on. Then, I sit and create a list of (mostly) unattainable goals with no pathway to achieving them, only to set them aside when life showed up in three weeks. Does this sound familiar?
I’ve been saying this for years, but I strongly dislike the word resolution.
For one thing, it’s just a fancy way of saying goal. For another, it suggests that you are a problem. None of us are perfect. Of course, there are parts of ourselves to improve upon, but setting these specific goals for ourselves without a way to get there sets us up for failure and even more self-doubt.
Three years ago, I sat at home on New Year’s Eve and decided to change my mindset for New Years Eve.
Instead of a list of goals without any strategy sitting in my dresser all year, I picked one word to keep in mind all year. A word that was centered around something I needed to improve upon or something I needed to keep in mind in order to achieve what I wanted to in the next year.
This word helps to center me, to ground me, and to keep my eyes on the future instead of the mistakes of the past.